Insecurity is one hell of a word, especially when first-time mums are involved. People surrounding you will always have something to say. Insecurity will be part of life the moment you raise a child, mum friends will show up in two disguises.
There are those who will throw self-doubt on you, act like everything is imbalanced and make you think hard on easy matters. These types of mum-friends are best known for criticism and bad mouth.
Then there are those good, well-wishers who encourage and nurture your motherhood in all aspects.
They will show you the right path to follow, based on their experience, and will comfortably make your life easier.
Here are five passive aggressive things you ought to expect from the critics:
It also happened to me during my first years in motherhood.
- 1 . “What was her name again? Isn’t that too hard to pronounce?” Don’t you worry; it might be her frustration for naming her baby some weird acronym which is now turning out to be a real tongue twister. She has to criticize your choice because that’s just how she feels after coming up with a bad baby name. Well, you already made the right choice, just smile away.
- 2. “You’re still breastfeeding?” Your baby is barely five months old and here she is trying to doctor you. I know during her breastfeeding journey she pulled over at six months and she’s trying to make that your problem too. Be kind and tell her what biology says on breastfeeding.
- 3. “You’re not pureeing?” she is desperate to go for mashed potatoes while her poor judgment prevents her from differentiating a simple gag from a choke. Just suggest a weaning formula and leave it at that. A nice power blender perhaps.
- 4. “He sleeps alone already? That’s so sad!” truth is, she hasn’t blinked for years ever since her baby started waking up in the wee hours. In fact, she is just showing how hard it is for her to accept that you are having rather cozy nights of eight hour sleeps. Just nod sympathetically and remind her how warm it feels to cuddle your baby the whole night.
- 5. “You’re back to work already? Isn’t it too early?” she really doesn’t have a career and what she is trying to do is make you fall for some local writing job which will leave you both miserable. Well, don’t let her bust your bubble yet, go for what you want!
Motherhood is as hard as it can get, laying insecurities on other mums will just make the road tougher.
If they can’t be nice, well they can as well stay in their lanes.